We live and we die ruled by one question — “Do I matter to anyone?**” The bum on the streets is asking it. The successful business man is asking it. The stay at home mom is asking it. I am. You are.
What you long for more than anything is to be cherished. When you are cherished you know in the intricate depths of who you are that you are important to someone. It is to know that in the deepest most intimate place of your heart that someone delights in you; that every intricacy matters and brings joy to the one who knows you most. Who is the one who knows us most and yet still loves us best? It is none other than Jesus.
“To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw at us.” (Timothy Keller)
Without first being cherished by God, growing in confidence that He truly loves you to the core of you, it is impossible to truly cherish others. Ones who have been loved well are able to love well, no matter the cost. This is the role of the church. This is why beholding the love of God is the single most important aspect of our christian lives.
Thus, my favorite verse in all of the Bible is John 15:9. Jesus says “I have loved you as the Father loves me”. We skip right over it so easily, but it’s such a dramatic statement. It means that God loves you in the same intensity that God loves the infinite God (His son). It’s crazy. When I talk to Jesus I like to ask Him, “How much does the Father love you? Because in the same way He loves you, you love me.” It’s a beautiful thing to behold.
You really do matter to someone. You’re not overlooked or forgotten. He sees you right where you are. He enjoys every bit of you.
Let God cherish your heart today.
**The content from this post is partially out of response to a book I just finished reading, “The Life of the Beloved” by Henri Nouwen. Therefore, not all of these ideas are mine and I do not want to make it seem as if they are. Henri Nouwen is a very inspiring author and I encourage you to read his books.